Radical Positivity - there's no other option - really!

You may have already heard about how one should see the silver lining and think positive. You would also be familiar with the many quotes and advices you've received from people about seeing the good side, etc. So, I will try to keep it short and not bore you with same stuff you have read/heard/been irritated listening to over and over again. 

When we are talking about something like cancer, or anything where in not doing that thing is going to threaten your life as well as doing it is going to cause you problems you weren't expecting / didn't want in your life - I don't think in long term, there's any other better option for you - Radical Positivity. 

If you think about it, there's very little in your control - really. You can't control anymore that the disease shouldn't happen to you, as it already did. You also can't control the treatment much unless you are really an expert. And if you are a person who has some motivation to live, the only way is to get treated. The only thing you do can control though is your mindset and your mind when operating with your disease or its cure on a daily basis. You may ask, does it even help - The answer to that is : Mostly Yes. 

There'll be many times / moments when you can slip into the whirlpool of thinking the whys and then weeping into cries (that rhymed!) When you later ponder on it, you'll realise such loop of thoughts leave you nowhere. Neither does it help you accept any more nor does it make your disease any less painful / more tolerable. What it will do is : give you the satisfaction of feeling like a victim. does it help cure? No. 

For the record, what I did was two fold- 

Firstly, I looked at cancer as any illness which had a cure and it was going to be completely alright after treatment. Staying at a birds eye view of my situation was the key to tricking my brain. Believe me, the detailed view can actually make you prey of the negativity whirlpool thinking. 

Secondly, I started looking at every chemo as 12.5% more closer to killing the cancer in me. So, every time I had a chemo, I would celebrate killing cancer. This helped me focus on the cure rather than on the conditions that underlay. 

So my friends, instead of wasting your time on the weeping part, I urge you to come up with your own mechanism of thinking radically positive, see the silver linings and probably gamify the treatement into milestones and goals.